❖ Before I Was Vudu, I Was Survival Itself

I was raised in a cult.

The first 18 years of my life were marked by control, fear, and the constant bracing for danger.

What most people call trauma—was my norm.

Suffering wasn’t something I escaped. It was the only thing I knew.

When I left, I didn’t walk into healing—I walked into more chaos.

I chased intensity, called it love.

I spiraled through hypersexuality and substance use.

I didn’t know I was dysregulated. I didn’t even know what regulation was.

I lived life on autopilot—always performing, rarely being.

I thought I was broken.

But I wasn’t.

I was traumatized.

And no one had ever taught me how to feel safe.

❖ I Found My Way Through the Body

Everything began to shift when I discovered somatic therapy, sexological bodywork, and kink as a sacred language.

I learned that trauma lives in the body—not just in the mind.

That slowing down is not laziness—it’s resistance.

That softness is power.

That pleasure is sacred.

That regulation is the key to everything—clarity, manifestation, connection, creativity.

And slowly… I started to come home to myself.

But something else transformed me, too—

When I began attending intimate workshops and gatherings, I met people who made me feel safe in ways I had never known.

Not just tolerated—but seen. Not just touched—but held.

That experience changed me.

For the first time, I didn’t feel like I had to explain my body, my trauma, my desires.

There was space for me to be—and to belong.

That’s what I want to create here with Dahlier.

A space for those of us who never had one.

A sacred container where regulation, ritual, and reverence replace shame, urgency, and fear.

❖ Dahlier Was Born From That Becoming

Dahlier is more than a brand.

It’s the sanctuary I needed but couldn’t find.

It’s a love letter to the ones who had to raise themselves.

To the ones who feel too much.

To the ones who are ready to stop surviving and start sensing.

This is a space for somatic repair, sensual remembrance, and ritual as resistance.

I write to show you you’re not alone.

I create tools to help you self-soothe, self-worship, and self-regulate.

I offer coaching, community, and care—not to fix you, but to walk beside you while you remember your way back.

❖ A Few Things I Believe

• Most people aren’t broken—they’re dysregulated.
• You don’t have to “heal” to be worthy of softness.
• Kink can be therapy.
• Sensuality is sacred.
• Shame dissolves in slowness.
• The body always remembers—even what the mind tries to forget.
• Nervous system repair is a revolution.

❖ If You’re Here, You Belong

I’m not here to preach healing from a pedestal. I’m still becoming.

Still unlearning. Still softening. Still stumbling toward peace.

But I built this space for all of us walking that path.

You don’t need to be ready. You just need to be willing.

To feel a little more.

To slow down.

To remember that your body is not the enemy—it’s the portal.

Welcome to Dahlier.

Welcome to the soft revolution.

— Vudu Dahl