Going solo: Self-pleasure tips that’ll blow your mind

Written by Vudu Dahl


Posted on November 21 2022

So, you’re all alone. You have a moment to yourself and  you’re feeling a little saucy.  You're thinking about masturbation (you naughty thing 😉) but... where do you start? It turns out that solo sex can be just as fun as partnered sex—especially when you've got some self-pleasure tips at your disposal. So whether you want to take advantage of those few minutes between classes or spend an evening getting off with no distractions, here are some surefire ways to get yourself off solo style:

An orgasm for one is still an orgasm
The first time you have an orgasm alone is a milestone, but don't kid yourself—your solo orgasms can still be just as good as the ones with your partner - or partners.
Masturbation doesn't have to be a solo activity. It can actually be a great way to connect with someone else in bed or even just yourself if you're feeling down. The key is to keep things fun and lighthearted, so don't feel like you need to rush into sex after some self-love—just enjoy the process!

Switch it up
When you’re alone, there aren’t many people to tell you what to do. This means that you have complete control over the activities that take place in bed and on the couch (or wherever it is that you like to pleasure yourself). If one position gets old, try another. If using your hands isn't doing it for you anymore, switch things up by using a toy. The possibilities are endless with no one around to tell you how they think things should be done!

So how do we kickstart this exploration? Here are some suggestions:

Explore your body
Before you take matters into your own hands, try exploring your body with your hands first. When you touch yourself, use a variety of different textures and temperatures. Try using different positions for stimulation (sit up, lie down on a towel or blanket) and find out what feels best for you. And if something feels particularly good one time? Take note so that next time around it's easier to replicate those results!

Give yourself permission to enjoy it
You're in charge! You have every right to do what you want, when you want—and that includes self-pleasure. It's a great way to relax and escape from your daily routine. Whether you do it alone or with someone else, there are plenty of ways to get yourselves going and make the most out of your alone time:

  • You can do it anytime, anywhere. Self-pleasure is a great way to unwind after work or school and before bedtime—or any time when you need some stress relief.
  • You don’t need any toys at all. Sometimes people think they need fancy vibrators or other devices for masturbation, but really all you need is yourself (and maybe some lube).
  • Solo sex play doesn't mean the end of partnered sex! If anything it can help strengthen those relationships by giving both partners more understanding about what turns each other on sexually (or not) which will hopefully lead towards better communication between partners in bed together.

Talk about it
The first step to enjoying self-pleasure is realizing that it's a normal, healthy part of life. Everyone does it, and it's important to understand that masturbation is not only fun—it's also a great way to explore your body and learn what feels good.
It can be one of the best ways to communicate with your partner about what you like and don't like in bed. It can also help you get to know yourself better, which will make communicating with other people easier (especially if they want to do the same thing).

Masturbation is a great way to release stress, and you don't need partner to do it.
Masturbation is a great way to release stress, and you don't need partner to do it.
There are many ways to massage yourself that can lead up to an orgasm (or multiple ones!). Find what works best for you, whether it's using your hands or applying pressure with something else like a vibrator or butt plug. Whatever method you choose, remember: You're the expert on your body; trust yourself and experiment!

When you’re ready to take your solo sex game to the next level, you can do it with these tips. Masturbation is a fun and healthy way to relax, release stress and feel good about yourself.



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